Who would you rather be?

If you could be anyone in the world, who would you rather be?

Someone strong, someone smart, big or fast, rich or skilled, beautiful or rough, the list goes on and on.

If there was a time limit to this wish, most would answer with rich, unless they have actually felt bullied for not having one of these qualities.

Does that mean these qualities are a necessity? Maybe yes.

Does it mean if you were average, and you couldn't choose becoming rich, the other options might be less meaningful? Why does being rich feels so important? So you could buy everything money could buy. But then what? Isn't the reason you would wish for being rich is that you have heard or seen about the leisures a certain rich person enjoys? Won't your friends be jealous of you? Cursing you and your luck? Try not to invite you in few gatherings, time and time remind you about your money, make those jokes which only your other friends would laugh at?

Isn't that similar to abolishing someone? Would being abolished by your friends be worth it?

Won't your family share your success story with your similar-aged-cousins and siblings? Would that be psychologically acceptable by them? Would they be able to cope up with this pressure? Would they be able to truly treat you like an equal without being humbled inside?

Is money worth it?

You could disagree with me that I'm being negative, and your friends are your buddies for life, and how your family share and unbreakable bond. I hope I am.

But I would go back to first question now. If your friends and family are so perfect, then why do you want to be someone else?

BAFF Model for understanding oneself

This is my model for understanding your true self, meeting the person on the other side of the mirror.

What do you feel when you're alone after a long time?

B. Boredom?

A. Anxiety?

F. Fear?

F. Freedom?

It could be a different answer for a different person, but it won't be that far from these four options.

B. Boredom

You're a social animal. For good or bad things you tend to look back on your shoulders so you can share them and get acknowledged for being normal.

You're part of the crowd, and would probably take everything mentioned in this section negatively because it is not the global response you get for yourself.

A. Anxiety

You've always been around people, but not because you can't survive without company, it's because your shell is not broken yet.

Just take a deep dive in the ocean, and you can swim across the world.

F. Fear

You've been pampered for a long time, and you need people around you to feel complete. You have yet to understand your own self.

What are you? You have to find out. It's a tough place to be in.

F. Freedom

Why so?

Perception?

Deception?

Susception?

No. Imagination.

If you also chose this then your mind is a prison of ideas trying to escape. It's upto you how to resolve this situation, groom the idea and release it in the world to make itself known.

Entity

Almost everyone was aware of me.

Most of them knew my name.

Some of them wrote about me.

Few of them had ever talked to me.

A handful of people knew me personally.

I could count my friends and families on my fingers.

Only one person was close enough to understand me.